Healing is one of the most difficult things in the world to comprehend. We devote much of our lives trying to understand how we can fit in– assimilate– into our environments. Many of us don’t realize that we spend a majority of that time attempting to heal what aches in our hearts and minds– most of us not knowing what plagues us in the first place.
How do we go about pinpointing what drives us to desire this inner stability? Typically, we must realize what it is– in our lives– that we look to for consolation. Do we covet money, love, recognition?
What is it that we want?
Then… we must ask ourselves, what do we need? Many times, we confuse what we need with what we want– craving with necessity.
There is nothing wrong with wanting money, but how much of it do we need at our place in time? There is nothing wrong with wanting love in our lives, but what type of love do we really need to get us through? There is nothing wrong with wanting recognition, but what is it about this recognition that makes us feel that we need this spotlight?
What are we really asking ourselves: what is missing in me?
This idea that we are incomplete drives us to reach for temporary fixes. The problem with these “fixes” is that they may mend us from the outside. Though, we all know that a tree cannot truly thrive without healthy roots. A sapling doesn’t have to begin in the richest soil to have the future of a mighty oak. Because again, we all know that with careful measures, a sapling can be removed from its place and taken to earth filled with an abundance of nutrients.
It is inevitable that I compare our likeness to trees. They plant, they sprout, they rise up, they spread out, they give life. And one of the most fruitful things they provide to us is the air we breathe. In order for us to live, we must be able to breathe with the tools given to us. We must be in spaces that allow us to suck the fresh air into our bodies so that we can exist in harmony with our surroundings.
But what happens when a storms of water or winds violently pass through our landscape? The damaging possibilities of what can happen to our frames, amidst the unfavorable weather, are predictable.
Whether it be in your everyday environment or online, we have branches of ourselves that can bend and break. Like that of a storm, one moment can change the way we view ourselves and especially the way we feel.
However, unlike the snapped bough of a tree, we can piece ourselves back together. We may be told to follow our heart’s desires everywhere we turn, but what do we do about the mind that manifests what the heart craves in the first place?
Most of us were born into a world that gave us and continues to give us no choice but to think we need to rely on dependencies to get through our lifetimes. We are not inherently taught to believe that we can breathe without them– money, praise, beauty, etc.
But at the end of the day, when we have nothing else, we have ourselves– mind, body, and spirit. That’s a lot to be left with, and these aspects of ourselves are not as easily bridged to one another. There can be miles or even seas in between these parts of our whole.
In order for us to find and connect these parts, we must go on journeys to find them. We many not be able to see what we’re looking for through turbulent weather of old manifestations, but in our minds, we have always held the power to transform our climates.
This power within us never dies.
With all of these abilities to craft our world from the inside out, it’s all the more reason to spend time with who is already within our person. And if you can admit to the infinite potential of the mind, then you can acknowledge that there is so much more to learn about yourself than you’ve ever known, on a daily basis.
Everyday can be a new journey to discovering what is within you– who you really are. When you can start to piece together who you are, you can begin to figure out what it is that you truly need. And it is then that you can undo the doubts that our societies have planted in our minds and be on a genuine path to healing ourselves from within.
When we’ve reached these acknowledgements of self, we can face adversities with unparalleled strengths that allow us to not only go on but also to evolve into the creators we were born to be without hesitation.
For my fellow writers, never forget to write for yourselves first and foremost. Good writing will be filled with passion and an authenticity that will help you find the audience that you can share your worlds with. Many of them will be a lot like you, they will be mirrors– every relationship is a reflection of ourselves. And if you are happy with you and what you give to the world, you will never fear your spectators nor the passions you share with them.
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